There is another face to face sexual position on
the bed that is worth mentioning though it can only be adopted if the
woman has very supple thigh muscles and does not tire easily.
She kneels facing the man with her legs apart,
and lies back until her head and shoulders are resting on the bed.
This has the effect of arching her back and
making her pubic area the peak of the hill formed by her body.
The man places himself above her, puts his
penis into her, and leans forward over her.
He must be careful that none of his weight
rests on her; it will mostly be taken by his elbows and biceps.
Penetration is deeper in this than in all the
other face to face lovemaking positions, except the woman on top or
But it will only work if the woman can arch
herself in this way without discomfort.
Rear Entry Sex Positions
Many couples have a limited "view" of what rear entry sex can actually do for them.
No, I'm not talking about the "view" that the man gets of the woman's behind as he
enters her, exciting though that undoubtedly is!
No, I'm talking about the range of techniques you can try from the rear – as
you can see from the photographs on this page there are plenty of them, and they come in
many different forms.
Now, we know that couples who enjoy sexual
intercourse on a regular basis tend to stick to the same few sexual positions.
But you can change all that! There's no variation of human lovemaking better
than rear entry, as I hope to demonstrate on this
To start with, the classic view of rear entry sex is
where the woman is kneeling, with the
man either standing or kneeling behind her and entering her
as he reaches round to fondle her breasts. An alternative is for him to place his hands on her
shoulders to get leverage as he thrusts.
Yet there's absolutely no reason why a woman should be kneeling
on all fours for rear entry sex. For example, she can have her head down or up; she can be
standing with her body bent into a right angle at the hips or have her torso
angled more upwards;
she can be lying down flat on the bed with her chest down, as the man kneels or
lies alongside her or on top of her; and she can even present her vulva
to her partner when she's in a variation of the side-by-side lovemaking
Some good sources of information about the female
orgasm are here - first, Orgasm Arts, which is probably the best on the internet for
, although another good site on how to make a
woman come .
So this is an extremely versatile sexual position, because the various postures that
are possible allow all kinds of different sensations. In some of these
variations of position, the man can fondle his partner's breasts, or he can reach round
and play with her clitoris. In other positions, she can reach round and play with his
testicles, and in many of the positions
anal play is possible.
Combine this with the fact that the various
sex positions available for rear entry sex allow either limited or
complete bodily contact, and you have a whole panoply of sexual excitement and
fun waiting to be explored.
And of course, there's a certain objectification
of the woman during rear entry sex. This is because you can't really look your partner in the eyes.
If you're a
romantic type, this might be a considerable disadvantage. But to offset this there are
plenty of other big advantages. For example, this is
probably the sexual position that allows the deepest penetration. And men who
are visually stimulated by the sight of their partner's bottom may be really
turned on by making love like this.
Another thing: perhaps more importantly, some women
find that these sex positions allow them to express their deepest and most
powerful level of sexuality in an uninhibited way. For those women brought up
with the concept of the "good girl" or "Madonna in the bedroom", rear entry sex
allows a woman to express her most powerful sexual urges in an uninhibited way.
It's important for everyone to have the
opportunity during lovemaking to express fundamental aspects of themselves. That
might be a man's instinct to thrust hard and fast and to ejaculate deep into his
partner while he holds on tightly to her. Or it might be a woman's instinct to express her
raw sexuality in a very seductive, primal way.
Because, when you think about it, rear entry sex is
indeed an instinctual and
evolutionary throwback – it's the way that animals mate, it's the way that
our ancestors would have mated,
and I suspect that when we make love in that way, we too are fulfilling a very deep
and animal lustfulness that goes far beyond our polite missionary, man on top,
That simple desire to fuck, to ejaculate as
quickly as possible, which is of course based on an instinctual urge to get a
woman pregnant - such a basic biological imperative! - means men tend to
But I think that the
meaning and satisfaction of these sexual positions actually goes deeper than this;
besides fulfilling basic male and female instincts, there's a symbolism to rear
entry sex which is something about
the complete acceptance by the woman of her man's raw sexuality.
herself to him in a most vulnerable way,
waiting to be taken, giving him her body openly. This is a very vulnerable position for a
woman to be in, even within a loving and trusting relationship, and it's an act
of great faith for a woman to surrender herself and be seen in this way.
Once you go beyond the instinctual and animalistic
aspects of this sexual position, what is there to say about it beyond the fact that
there are many possible variations? Quite a lot, actually.
thing, so many variations of angles are possible between a couple. You only
need to look at the photographs to see just how many variations of this position there actually are.
And all of this means that almost every couple, no
matter how large the man's penis, no matter how tight the woman's vagina, no
matter whether he's under-endowed or she has a short vagina, can find an ideal position for making love
among the many variations of rear entry.
The ideal positions, the best sex positions, are the
ones in which the couple feel most comfortable, without any strain on her vagina
or his penis. These are the sexual positions in which they both get the greatest sexual stimulation
and satisfaction. That's largely about the angle of penile penetration and the
depth of penetration, and to a lesser extent, the degree to which her vagina
grips his erect penis.
I've also made the observation that there is no way of predicting which sexual
position is going to be most comfortable for a particular couple, and that's
all I can suggest is that you try out as many variations as possible
until you find the one that you enjoy the most!
So accepting that a couple will get different sensations from
these variations in the angle of penetration, are there any general guidelines
for sexual pleasure here?
First and foremost, in the standard sexual
position where the woman's kneeling while she lowers her head and raises her
pelvis, her vagina will tighten, thereby providing more friction for the man,
which may provoke a quicker ejaculation for him.
It will also provide more stimulation on the G
spot, which is capable of taking a woman to orgasm during sexual intercourse.
Many women can reach orgasm during sexual intercourse
through vaginal stimulation if her man is capable of lasting for long enough
before he ejaculates. This gives her sufficient stimulation, both in terms of frequency and rhythm, and
vaginal stimulation. Without the right combination of these things it may be necessary for either the woman or her partner to
stimulate her clitoris as they make love. This is in fact how most
couples who claim the
woman can orgasm during intercourse achieve this result.
Now, I've mentioned that deep penetration is one of the advantages of rear sex,
and so it is. However, one of the disadvantages of such penetration is that it is
possible for the man's penis to hit the woman's cervix as he thrust into her. This isn't necessarily a bad thing because it can stimulate a blended
orgasm that involves clitoris, vagina and uterus. But in a woman who isn't
extremely sexually aroused it can sometimes feel uncomfortable.
So a little bit of caution is necessary,
particularly if the man has a long penis. Keep in mind also that although we
tend to think of sex as being something in which the man does most of the
thrusting, it's equally possible for the woman to move during intercourse, and
there's no better sexual position for such movement than rear entry.
In classic rear entry, the man can even stand
still whilst his partner rides back and forwards on his penis, thrusting her
pelvis and giving opportunity to express her sexuality. For many women this can
be very arousing.
As I said above, some of the photographs demonstrate that
positions are not limited to ones where the woman is lying down or kneeling.
Indeed, for a couple whose height is well matched, it's actually possible for a
couple to find dozens of variations of kneeling and standing postures,
and in the latter case, the woman can brace herself against a wall to absorb
the man's powerful thrusts.
As always, when the woman's torso is exposed –
which would always be the case if she's not lying on the bed - it's possible for
the man to reach around and stimulate either her breasts or her clitoris, or
other parts of her body as he thrusts into her. This ensures that she receives the
maximum amount of sexual pleasure possible.
It's even possible for a couple who are flexible to kiss during rear entry sex –
you can see how this is done in the photographs.
Now imagine that you have a sex position where
the man is stimulated by the sight of his partner's
the woman enjoys expressing her wanton sexuality
a couple are turned on by the raw sexuality of what
and there's lots of bodily contact, freedom of
Well, why imagine? That actually is the reality of
these sex positions!
And even the missing factor of eye gazing (no, you
can't usually do this in rear entry sex!) can be overcome if you position a
mirror so the man can see her, and vice versa, as they make love.
I'd like to draw your attention to a particular combination of rear entry
side-by-side sex which is very relaxing, extremely sensuous, and can produce
wonderful orgasms for both partners (perhaps with a little added hand stimulation
for the woman).
So once again, we find that rear entry sex can provide great excitement.
It is both capable of giving deep penetration and also feeds that wonderful sensation of "taking your partner" for the man, and
"being taken" for the woman.
To sum up the advantages of rear entry sex, I'd say that for women who are
sensitive inside the vagina, in the area of the G spot, these sex positions
are a wonderful way
to get pleasure, fulfilment and sexual satisfaction.
The Need For Ejaculation Control
If a man really wants to please a woman, he needs
to become a sexual artist. He needs to control
his ejaculation, know how to please a woman, and understand
the techniques that will give her satisfaction. It also helps if he is aware of
speed up her progress to orgasm and then keep her on the edge of orgasm until
finally dropping her over into a massive climax. Read about all of these
This requires a certain amount of self-discipline.
For a man, the sight of his penis entering and withdrawing from his
partner's body as his balls bang against her vulva, can be overwhelmingly arousing
and cause him to ejaculate far too quickly.
If this seems too great a challenge for you, then
why not adopt one of the more relaxing variations of this sex position? This
would include side-by-side sex with the woman lying on her side with her man
This is a sexual position that doesn't promote
frantic, urgent sex; it's one that gives itself more to romantic gentle, sex but still
offers the opportunity to
stimulate the woman's clitoris and bring her to orgasm. Needless to say, it's also good for
woman who prefers a more passive role,
or for a woman who is tired or pregnant.
As I've said before, rear entry isn't actually the impersonal,
animalistic thing some people think it is: in fact, it actually allows for a great deal
of intimacy and fondling of her breasts during intercourse.
But this links to one of the challenges of such sex: if a woman is
self-conscious about her body, she may feel that the level of exposure she gets is simply
too great, particularly if she has saggy breasts or saggy
I think it's important for all women to understand that these things are actually far
less important to their male partner than they are to the woman concerned.
It may seem hard for a woman to believe, but the truth is this: